I totally agree with Robert. Maybe you can't change what is bound to be, but doggonit, ATTITUDE is definitely a plus when you are fighting sickness in whatever form. Medical professionals know this. When my long-time caregiver/nana as the kids called her was in rehab after lung cancer therapy, they asked me for posters of Alaska to put in her room to give her hope, because we were planning a cruise with her. Turns out, the cancer had spread to the bones and it wasn't possible, but sometimes ANYTHING is possible. We see that in survivor stories, many of which have been shared on this board with such humble candor and have given me such encouragement when and if I have to face it.