Great information, Kathy. My in-laws live on a Presbyterian sponsored 3-tier campus (higher end money-wise). The independent portion is fine but once they require the next step or the nusring care then there are complaints just like any other of these facilities and you pay and pay! Leaves alot to be desired. This place decided to extensively re-model all of the public spaces requiring changes in food service, etc. It has been so hard on the residents. I don't think management thought about the effects on them.

My in-laws did their children a favor by deciding for themselves that it was time to sell their home and move into this type of facility. They have had several happy years living there with little worries for their children. But, now that health has failed, worries are more.

Even though we have children, Alan and I are going to make our own plans (just like his parents). Not to sound cynical but you never know when the time comes and we would rather depend on our ownselves.

Andi, over-medication is such a problem with seniors. I've watched it happen to several of my relatives. It's a combination of "forgetting" what they are taking and/or the "a little bit more" will do the trick. We have several close to us that we are concerned about not waking up due to too much medication at night.

I'm happy you made it home and that Doug has clean clothes. Can your mom's housekeeper mail your makeup/meds to you? Hope so. Don't fall asleep in your meeting today!