Margo,
Alan's and my loving thoughts and prayers are with your mother, you and your entire family. I have had to walk many miles in your shoes with both my parents, who lived in NY. The distance made it all the more difficult to handle and bear. I do understand much of what you are going through and you have my uttmost support and best wishes.
This has been a difficult weekend for Alan and me. We received a call yesterday from a friend who told us another one of our friends, who is also a co-worker of Alan's, had passed away, as he was playing tennis, on Saturday. He was in his mid-50's. We are shocked and saddened.