Margo,
I lost my mother to Lung cancer in 1993. The time we spent together as a family in those end days were bittersweet but also very special to me. We spent time reminising about growing up with my mother and it was a very kind way for us to thank her for the sacrafices she made in raising three children. We tried to keep things humorous and light despite the difficulty.
I wish your family strength through this time.