Anne - so sorry to hear of all your flight troubles, but glad to hear you did make it there OK.
As one who's driven the Bucks County to Long Island route over a dozen times a year for 30 years, what you experienced is not unusual. So often we'd sit in traffic & go from traffic report to traffic report with never a word about the traffic we were in.
However, in the future, unless on a Sunday morning, you're better off getting off at Exit 10 or 13 & going through Staten Island & then through Brooklyn rather than going through a tunnel & through Manhattan & Queens.
I've also been reading those reports on FLyerTalk. It's really quite ridiculous, isn't it? Are they going to ban watches next? Anyone who knows what time a flight is scheduled to land and has a watch can determine when they are an hour from landing! Were you not allowed to have blankets? Books? Although I guess with no overhead lights you couldn't read anyway. Seems to me that those full body scanners are the best solution to this kind of threat.
We are thinking seriously of canceling our flights to Fla & driving down instead.