Trish, certainly no offense meant here. It might be nice (or fun, in a strange way) to hear those stories, but I prefer to look forward, not backward, if we are talking about "#1 choice in a person" we would "like to be without". In my profession, what is in the past is not always helpful, we have to look from now onward. No sense dwelling on past disappointments and having an avenue to vent that won't help. SO, maybe we might talk about who we are not and wish we were? My mother was the most wonderful person I ever met!